Do you ever find yourself thinking, how could you be so stupid, you look fat, or you’re a horrible mother? Are you afraid people will find out you’ve fooled them into thinking you’re competent? If you’re guilty of expressing these types of discouraging messages, then you have a bitch in your head. This self-critical behavior can wreak havoc with your life—it can keep you from getting the love you want, the raise you deserve, or even a good night’s sleep.
Dr. Plumez began to notice a pattern with her patients being too hard on themselves. She found that gentler approaches didn’t work, but when she told them they were being a bitch—to themselves!—they finally recognized their self-defeating attitude and how much it was weighing them down.With this book, Dr. Plumez can help you banish the bitch. It identifies the different types of “bitches”—work, marriage, parenting, and so on—and provides effective tools and techniques to combat the forms of self-destruction described. Once you begin to encourage rather than criticize, you will find that your career, social life, and relationships almost magically improve.
Dr. Jacqueline Hornor Plumez is an award-winning psychologist. She is the author of Successful Adoption, Divorcing a Corporation, and Mother Power. She has appeared on The Today Show and Good Morning America, and her articles have appeared in Ladies’ Home Journal and The New York Times Magazine. She lives in Larchmont, New York.
I used to make fun of books like these. Self-help? Personal improvement? It was all hokey to me. A waste of time. But this year I decided to give some of it a try. There are still things out there that don’t mesh with me, but I thought that maybe, just maybe, if I started reading some self-improvement books they could — gasp!— actually help me. Negative self-talk has been an ongoing issue for me, so this book seemed right up my alley. And am I ever happy I gave it a go.
I really enjoyed this book and the information that I got from it has been invaluable. Like I said, I’ve always had an issue with negative self-talk and I know that you’re supposed to stop it and replace it with positive self-talk. But I never had a solid idea how to do this.
But calling all that negative self-talk the bitch in my head unleashed something for me. It gave a persona to what I was doing to myself in my head. And it’s helped me to tame it.
I really enjoyed the conversational tone of the book and the fact that it was broken down into different bitches that live in our head. They layout makes it a great reference book to go back to and just review certain parts.
Now when I think something that leans towards the negative, I ask myself if it’s the truth or the bitch in my head.
I’d definitely recommend this for anyone who struggles with negative self-talk.